Fertility and Family Magick Spells

Fertility and Family

Fertility is a complex issue with many facets of it's own. It can be an issue with simply wanting your partner to be on board with family planning to dealing with more sensitive issues such as not being able to get pregnant. In thist section, I'll also include things like menstrual cycles and, of course, actual pregnant spells since they do play a large roll in fertility and family planning. Family spells can include anything from keeping your family close knit, to protection, to just having fun or increasing that love and bond. 

Family Planning

Fertility spells can be a very intimate issue. A lot of times this comes with impotance and having to find a way around it. Unfortunately, magick is not a fix-all and when dealing with these issues, I always suggest going to a doctor and using modern methods as a first source with spells being something of a booster. There are multiple spells out there meant to assist you with getting pregnant including some really great kitchen witchery. I have meals planned out to help with getting pregnant as well as the stages of pregnancy. I've researched some great male and female specific impotancy ingredients, like clotsfoot. So don't feel like you won't be able to find something that fits your specific need sufficiently, it's just... Touchy. There's also work that can be done to increase libido, reduce stress, and try to increase intimacy because all of those can be a factor if it's not medical, as well keeping up with your diet and exercise. I'veI've f knot spells to keep a baby safe in the womb until it's ready to be birthed and other really useful information googling around, but all of these things should come with a warning that they may not work. Nothing in life is guaranteed and sometimes all the charms in world won't help. Even from my very religious views, sometimes it's just the Gods' will. I've seen spells where you can go for a very particular gender, and honestly, i wouldn'tw trust those at all. I would also put in this category adopting spells, simply because of the nature of the situation. You're still bringing a new love into your life.

Here are some foods for fertility:

Avacados, Carrots/Parsnips, Bananas, Apples, Strawberries, Cherries, Chestnuts, Asparagus, Beef, Cabbage, Celery, Cucumber

The Knot Spell to Help Pregnancy: 

If you are having trouble carrying to term, use this spell in combination with your conception ritual. Begin by getting a sturdy piece of green rope (for growth). Tie one knot in it to represent the baby. Hold the rope gently in both hands and place it up against your heart and say, “Secured in my womb, a seed of love. There to grow and blossom until released by nature __months hence. Surrounded by safety, health, and wholeness you shall remain until this knot is undone.” Fill in the blank with the number of months until your due date, then keep the rope bundled in a baby blanket. When you go into labour, untie the knot at the hospital to release any pain and open the birth canal. (Credit to The Black Witch Coven)

Amulets to wear during pregnancy:

Cherry or avacado pits, and there's a couple other herbs to wear to help ease delivery. ( I sell some in my shop.)

Family Magick:

So as I said above, these include anything assisting your family and home.  A lot of this work will include dirt from the four corners of your home so that the spell has a kind of barrier, especially when it comes to protection spells. I prefer doing knot spells using the hair and clothes, like socks, when performing any kind of family magick because I feel those are just the best type over a candle spell. It's a lot more personal like it should be. There's, also, of course kitchen magick that would play a large role in family relationship magick, or scents that are often found around the house are good to keep for later get togethers. There's also work here to help you get out of pending poisonous family situations, because, of course, sometimes those things just happen. For those I suggest again some kind of knot or cord spell and even probably with dolls. I keep dolls of myself and my husband for ongoing work and I plan on making ones for my kids later on. There's a lot to use these for in terms of sicknesses and life situations where they made need an extra bit of help than the mundane can give. I do sell a jar spell to help the family get along in my shop as well as handmade Cornhusk dolls. 

Knot spell to keep family close:

Take a sock from each person, preferably a used one still dirty. Take a strand of their hair and place it in the sock. Tie one sock to another until they form one long rope of socks. Tie the first and last sock together to join them saying:

"We are bound by blood

We are a family given to each other for love, support, trust, and happiness.

We are now bound through these knots to uphold those truths and honor and hold each other in our hearts.

A family is a bond never broken and neither will these knots."

Place this up somewhere out of reach in the home where it won't be disturbed. If you ever feel the need the cleanse your family of negative energy or to renew this love and bond, you can wash these socks in an appropriate herbal bath.

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Type of Relationship Magick - Friendship, Love, Marriage

The Steps of Love

So as stated in the last post, we were going over the different types of relationship magick. I feel that all of these play a role in relationship, more commonly known as "love", magick because they are all involving that same emotion, just on different levels. You have to first love yourself to find a true friend. You have to be friends with your significant other to make the relationship last. They all are intertwined and so they all work the same way. 

A Platonic Love

Friendship Spells are usually more involved than just making friends. It's overcoming anxiety in a new place or in your everyday life to become more sociable. It can be about coming out as yourself, your true self, and wanting people to see the better part of you. You could be in a situation that involves fake or poisonous friends who are really out to bring you down instead of raise you high above in whatever path you choose. Having that stepping stone in life is very important and should always be built upon. You really only need a handful of real friends, but it's attracting them into your life that is the difficult part. As a mom with toddlers, I know this is a struggle. You want your kids to have friends, so you feel you should befriend the parents of their play dates, but those are so often superficial and can later on be more hurtful. 

A simple friendship spell:

Take a yellow candle and carve into it your desire:

"Making new friends", "True friendship", "gaining confidence", etc

Use:

Salt - for good vibes

Orange - joy, blessings, and frienship

Lavender - happiness, general relationship herb

If you're attracting - Catnip

If you're wanting to be rid of Negative friendships or emotions - Lemon

As you mix the herbs together, think of your intention. You can write your own spell and say it as make the mixture and place it around your candle as well. Burn the candle down in the herbs and keep the wax in your living room, preferably near the door.

First Comes Love

Love and marriage spells are fairly self-explanatory. They're meant to attract that energy your way or to grow on the emotions already there. As I said before, you can't FORCE someone to love you. This initial misunderstanding on how to work these is where you'll find a lot of failures in your spell work. Unless they are causing you emotional harm or already experience those wants, the spell simply has nothing to work with. Most of the time these spells are used as a push in a direction they're simply too scared to walk down themselves or they feel like the romance won't be reciprocated. This can even include the Ducky's left in the friend zone. (If you get that entire reference, we're both old.)

Here's some sweet love and marriage spells:

Carve off an entire apple skin in one full piece. Ask who you're going to marry three times and toss it over your shoulder. The skin will land in the initial of your future spouse. If you fail three times, you'll never marry. 

Slice an apple in half and pull out the seeds. Name each seed, one at a time, and toss it into a fire. If it suits back, then that's the name of your next love interest. 

The Handfasting: when you marry, you may see many pagans using cord to wrap around their hands during their vows. This is symbolic of their union and also a spell to bind them to one another.

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Type of Love Magick

Love Magick in It's Many Forms:

Pagans on a large scale seem to cringe anytime someone brings up love spells, but from a personal point of view, I don't honestly understand why. They are no different than other spells you would work and can't really go against a person's will. Though that part is also largely under debate as there are spells that can, such as banishings and bindings, but you never want to bring that up to anyone who's touchy on the subject. In my many years of paganism I would dare to say that there are many forms of love magick and they're outside the realm of just a sexual nature. I would really prefer they were called relationship spells, so for the sake of understanding where I am coming from, that's what we will call them from here on out in our blog series.

Work and Friends

Relationships come in all manners from physical to casual acquaintance. Friendships and even work relationships are in this category because they obviously have their ups and downs and really do have a huge impact on your day to day from you emotional to mental health. Sometimes they need help and sometimes they just to need to end. The reason I include these is mainly because on a psychological level, these can have the same kind of impact as a marriage or a partnership. I'm sure we've all heard the terms "work spouse", "friend zone", or how often couples cheat with those close to them. This is because of that same bond that links those relationships together. The difference between them is often choice and, well, attractiveness. Friendship is a key building block of all marriages and lasting relationships. They simply won't last without. So it makes sense from a fundamental level to include these.

Sex and Family

The other subcategories are a far more obvious. Fertility, Sex Magick, and of course Family. All of these pretty much come with the territory of relationship spells because it's often a catalyst of starting something serious. You're not going to try to win someone over just for a week, ya know?

Break-Ups, Grieving, and Unrequited Feelings

Another sub I would suggest, as far as relations go, would be Break-Ups, Grieving, and Ending a Love Spell. We all face break-ups and they can go several ways, which are all included. Either you're wanting one, the other person is and you don't, or the relationship is going downhill for someone you know and they need to escape it. These situations can also include fake friendships and poisonous family situations. Grieving is usually dealing with a passing of a loved one, friend, family member, or just the heartache of getting over an end of a relationship. I would look at ending "love spells" as kind of an odd situation. Mainly because, as I said before, I believe they only work with two willing participants. In this, I would most likely tell someone its usually dealing with unrequited love more so than forced. However, this could possibly be a situation of a forced marriage as they do still happen.

Self-Love and Glamour

There is also Self-Love and Glamour. Yes, I would throw glamour under these because they can work with both self-love and physical love. It can even make you more confident to find friends, seem more approachable at work, or help you highlight what your personality strengths are. Self-love is pretty understandable. You have to first love yourself before you can really have a meaningful relationship with any other person. If you're unhappy with who you are or how you look that will shine through instead of everything that makes you wonderful. So, self care spells are helpful to have.

We can discuss each type of category in upcoming posts. You can read all about Glamour Magick in these blogs.

So How Do They Work?

As I said before you have to have two willing people. The only time I would say there is an exception to this rule in the case of breaking up or dealing with a hurtful situation. Relationship spells can come in all forms, from doll work to simple candles and prayers. You can write a petition to a love God or Goddess in your pantheon or even create a grandiose high magick ritual. Herbs and colors are best utilized here however, since their properties are so easily utilized and there a hundred different herbs you can grab at the grocery store. You can read about the colors best used here, and yes there are a lot more than red. If all else fails here is a list of grocery herbs you can grab dry and sometimes even fresh.

Rosemary - general love

Poppy - fertility

Marjoram - best used in all love spells

Ginger - adds power or fire

Mint - money matters, family

Vanilla - romance

Lemon - break-ups

Basil - reconciliations, money matters, 

Roses - general love

Carnations - friends, grieving

Daises - friends, babies

Cinnamon - spice up romance

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What is Love Magic - Misconceptions and Wicca

Hollywood, Witchcraft, and Physics

I feel this was the best place to start. A lot of people have a large misconception of what and how love spells work and that's mostly Hollywood's fault portraying it as a this tour de force against free will. However, this is very much not the case. Magick still works within the boundaries of possibility and that does include a person's capability to act or react a particular way to stimuli. As we all know, hollywood has a really had habit of blowing things out of proportion all in the sake of entertainment and that's the part you should pay most attention to; for entertainment. Real spells are not going to invert time or create really anything that goes against the basic laws of science that we know exist here on Earth. Yes... I said magick and science in the same sentence as if they belong together. Mainly because they kind of do.

Now this is where magick meets technicality in my experience. We cannot use spells to defy gravity, or change our outward physical appearance, so why believe we could force someone's will of mind? Maybe because it's more a suggestion, like hypnosis, but we also know that it doesn't work on everyone. They have to first be predisposed a certain way for it to work. This is how I see love magick working. The only way to get a lover back into a relationship with you or to make them want one in the first place is if they were actually willing to have that happen. Meaning, they had to have already liked you and that the spells you cast are really no more than a push in a particular direction. Imagine branches in the wind moving so easily as opposed to the trunk of the tree. It takes much more for it to be uprooted, and again, it's likely to have to be dead or dying or a severe storm to really make it happen.

So Then Why Use Love Magick?

Well, because just like everything else in life, some humans need that extra push. I think that way with all magick. Need a new job or promotion? You're pushing someone hire up down the path of choosing you when they were already mauling it over. Did you get a special inheritance? That was probably more of fate easing the passing of a sick loved one who was already about to go a lot sooner than later with a will that had your name on it. Keeping away theft or asking for protection? You'll likely avoid the places where you could get hurt because you don't feel comfortable in them anyway or the would be assaulter changes their mind since they really weren't up it anyway. Do you see what I mean by "in the realm of possibility"? Basically, when you cast a love spell, there has to be two people willing to participate. Otherwise, it just won't work.

Now, there are other types of love magick, and I will quickly go over them here, and in detail the next post. What I consider to be love spells are much more than intimate relationships. I consider breakups and divorce to be a category because they deal with the heart itself as well as emotions. Friendship and social based spells like gaining confidence and fitting in are also a small subcategory people often forget. Then there's the self and family; self love, appearance such as glamour, fertility, and of course family togetherness or love are also included. All of these deal with the heart, personal wellness, and, of course, influencing emotions.

Are There Wiccan Love Spells?

Now, I'm not Wiccan and I certainly am no expert on what is and isn't a wiccan spell. However, I do know that by my standards of what goes against free will and based on the entire blog I just wrote, I would say yes. Since it doesn't impede on any kind of free will, simply grows a decision that was previously planted by the person themselves, then it's harmless. It's no more wrong than any of your other kinds such as bindings and protections. 

I hope that this blog helped to clear up any of your misconceptions on what is and isn't a love spell as how they work and if their moral enough for Wicca.

© 2016, Copyright The Dame and The Devil Business Blog - Writer The Dame